Coaching

For the last five years I have coached over one thousand single women (and a fair amount of men) who are super successful in almost every area of their lives – except in their love lives (you can read more about this phenomenon here).

Isn’t it strange? How someone can have everything else figured out and still struggle enormously with their dating life?

Well, actually it’s not strange at all. Because no one teaches us how to create a  great love life. And the skills you have that make you successful in other areas, like your career, will not help you on a date. Rather the opposite, actually.

The ability to flirt, connect and create attraction requires a completely different skill set. And that is exactly what I will teach you. 

My clients tend to have a few things in common:

• They feel stuck in their love lifes. Either the wrong things keep happening or nothing is happening.
• They fall into one of two categories:
  – They end up with sex but nothing more
  – They end up with friendship but nothing more
• Dating feels hopeless. They’re tired after trying so hard for so long and don’t feel inspired to keep dating (aka dating fatigue).
• Everything goes well until they start to fall for someone. Then they get into complete panic mode and don’t know what to do anymore.
• They have a big fear of being rejected, hurt, left or letting people come close. So they keep things “nice” and “pleasant” – and lose out on passionate, exciting and vulnerable.

Other similarities that don’t have to do specifically with dating but are very common:

• You identify with your achievments. You only feel ok if you never fail.
• You are much more comfortable with thinking and doing than with feeling. (Feelings? Ewww!)
• Growing up you had to take care of, or conform to someone else (maybe a sick, addicted, dominant or destructive parent or sibling).
• You grew up in a family where you didn’t talk about or express emotions in a healthy way.
• You ruminate and overthink and it completely drives you crazy sometimes (specially when you like someone).
• You sometimes think that something is wrong with you, or that you’re somehow broken and not really worthy of love. (You are not. Omg, really you are not. You are so worthy, it’s just that no one taught you how to get there. We can that).
• You fear that even I won’t be able to help you, and that that would prove that you are completely hopeless. This is actually one of the most common fears among my clients. But thinking you’re that special actually only proves you’re just like everyone else. ????

I don’t care if you want to get laid or married. I will help you take charge of your love life, whatever that means for you.

Contact me and tell me a little bit about yourself, and we’ll arrange your first coaching session.