Having a crush on a friend can be very frustrating. They’re so close, but still so far away. You obviously like each other, and spend a lot of time together, but it’s a totally different kind of connection than the one you are longing for.
A lot of people talk about “the friend zone” and feel very unlucky when they get stuck there. They have no idea why and sometimes even blame the other person for not liking them the way that they want them to.
But is it really about luck? I don’t think so. If you look at how most people in “the friend zone” behave towards the one they have a crush on, the behave like – you guessed it – a friend. Of course the relationship is going to stay friendly.
If you want the relationship to include something more, you must bring it.
Behave like a frend – get treated like a friend.
Behave like a flirt – get treated like a flirt.
If you want to spice things up with your friend, you need to start doing some things differently. You have to make the change, take some risks and be flirtatious! It’s as simple as that.
And as hard as that, because I know it’s not an easy thing to do. But it’s necessary if you want to create the change.
Here are 3 things you can do to start creating the shift:
1. Increase the amount of physical contact between you two. Initiate hugs, stay close and make body contact a natural thing for you to have.
2. Give compliments, and do it in an ambiguous and flirty way. This will change the dynamics between you two, and you need to stay centered and say it like you mean it, even if your friend starts to wonder what’s happening. Don’t laugh it off, or take it back. Then you move back to where you were.
3. Don’ be your friends relationship coach. From now on you are not available for talking about other people they are seeing. Don’t be rude or anything, just don’t encourage the conversation. Talk about something else.